So here we are, almost 8 months after the death of my beloved husband. And I feel sad to say life is good. The day your husband dies you feel that life is about to end, but the saddest day comes when you realise life goes on and you can laugh at silly things again. In that sense life is cruel, for the person who died. I would love to think that when I die the whole world will come to an end. But I have found out the hard way: 'That ain't going to happen'.
I think the reason why I am coping is because of my incredible unthinkable support system. I realise now that we sometimes forget that bad things can happen when everything is going well in life. For most of my friends life is easy and enjoyable at this stage. They are either engaged, planning their wedding, on honeymoon, organising date nights or having babies. But what most girls (woman) forget is that the day they get married they still have to maintain their own lives. Yes, it is good to be friends with your husband’s friends, and yes, it absolutely fine to spend most of your time with your husband. However, I have realised the people who help and support you (on a daily basis - because that is how much you need them) when your husband passes away, is 95% your friends and 5% his friends. I often want to tell my girlfriends to stop neglecting their own lives with regards to their hobbies, their friends and their family. Treasure the people who have been there for you for years and treasure their love because you never know when you will need it the most... (I truly hope you won’t need it like I did - ever).
My family (and in-laws) are just awesome. I can only hint that I need help (in any way) and they are there and ready to assist.
My closest friends who I love so dearly have been there for me every day. My best friend has been sending me good night messages every single night since my husband died and that is what’s making sense at the moment. To be loved and cared for.
My only piece of advice for now is to treasure your (own) friends. You never know when you will need them.
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